Walk the Line...

"I love you, June. Now I know I said and done a lotta things, that I hurt you, but I promise, I'll never do that again. You're my best friend. Marry Me."
-Johnny Cash

Our hearts can be strong and forgiving, especially in the wake of a friend's beautiful disaster. You see brilliance and talent, love and pain and joy. You see redemption with in reach and you believe that someone can change, for the better. Hope lives within us, and sometimes we get that moment, the moment where we are capable of giving someone a second chance.

Now, I know alot of people say that you can't change someone and ultimately there is truth in that, but if you factor in that we are partially shaped by our experiences and environment, than you have to consider the whole picture.

Firstly, in everyone there is a desire to be loved, and we have all been loved differently and shaped by the love of our families and lovers. If we have the capacity to give second chances, then we need to have the wherewithall to understand who we are taking care of...only rescue those who would rescue you right back and at some point would have the strength, heart and soul to do so.

Stuck In A Moment...

You can choose love lost now or later. “it’s gonna hurt like hell, but you just have to rip it off like a Band-Aid.” We know, without anyone having to tell us, what it is going to feel like when you begin to let go of someone you love. And it may not seem like it at the time, but it's better to not prolong the process.

The better part of our adult lives may be spent somewhere in between falling in love and getting over someone. Getting your heart broken, and breaking hearts - are both emotionally exhausting. The ripple effect from that can spill over into our daily lives and effect everything.

It's sad to see a friend who has gone through a breakup, you know as you hand over the tissues and give your best pep talk, that there is nothing you can say to take away the initial pain. In fact you know you wish you could manufacture the 'mythical pill' - the one that makes you forget - at least enough to believe in love again. Luckily we have short term memories...and while relationships ending can initially shape our optimism - or lack thereof, we eventually realize the possiblities of falling in love again. For the moment, though, you're stuck - because once you’ve been burned, you’re less likely to open your heart the same way, for a little while. So be good to yourself. Have lots of friend, retail and vino therapy!

Now you're stuck in a moment
And you can't get out of it
And if the night runs over
And if the day won't last
And if your way should falter
A long this stony pass
It's just a moment
This time will pass
-U2

Sometimes You See the Beginning in the End...

It would seem that there is a time when one knows a relationship is ending. When two people, or one before the other has either decided to let go of love or find that love isn't enough.

In the film, 'Feast of Love', the narrator - Morgan Freeman speaks truthfully...

"Sometimes, if your eyes are open, you can actually see the end, in the beginning of the relationship".

I find this true, if I look back on life and the long heartfelt relationships I shared, the writing was always on the wall. In fact, I've always thought, I stayed too long. And it's a 'habit' that I am trying to break. A behavior that I am trying to identify and work through by understanding the root. The root of the cause. The root of the quest of love, close relationships, understanding and companionship.

This isn't uncommon. In fact, I've become an expert on the subject, objectively.

All Aboard...

You want to jump and dance,
But you sat on your hands
And lost your only chance.
I find a fatal flaw in the logic of love And go out of my head.
-Shins

Imagine standing on the platform of a train and knowing that the train passing through is "THE ONE" that will take you on the most amazing ride of your life, but you stand there, still, frozen and unable to board. It's a common disposition...one that doesn't allow you to take a leap of faith, but rather, fills your head with lead so to speak. The heaviness of thought that paralyzing your decision making process and holds you back firmly in it's grasp.

You have to remember, to let go, of the tight reigns you may have placed yourself in and JUMP. You will only regret not trying.